How not to get exploited | The nice girl and the nice guy

We all have come across people in our lives who we can call a 'nice girl' or a 'nice guy'. Their defining feature is their good nature and kindness towards others. They are selfless individuals who will go to extreme lengths in order to help their friends and acquaintances. They generally mix well with others.

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One more defining feature of a 'nice girl' or a 'nice guy' is that they get exploited by some of their own friends and acquaintances. You will come across numerous examples where you would have seen a nice person in an abusive relationship. You may also have seen some people exploiting others blatantly and the one getting exploited turns a blind eye to it. They just genuinely want to help the other person out even if they know that they are openly taking advantage of them. Do we really deserve such people? Both the exploiters and the nice people.

This kind of parasitic relationship and friendships are all around you. Just look around and you will find one or two. Maybe even you are in such a situation. If that is the case then you must immediately try to remedy the problem. You may either be the abuser or the one getting abused. For the abuser I really don't have any advice. Just look at the world from the other person's perspective and try to settle with the fact that no one owes you anything. If you are the one getting abused then read on.

Read this book by Beverly Engel - The Nice Girl Syndrome where she tells how women can overcome being overly nice to others and being manipulated by abusive partners. This book will be a blessing for women who are 'too nice for their own good'.

Read this book by Robert A. Glover - No More Mr Nice Guy where the author tells how men can overcome being overly nice. This will prevent men from being too helpful and too nice to others in order to please them.

If reading is not your cup of tea then watch this video by Bright Side Why Being Nice is Actually Bad For You

Stop being nice and stand up for yourself. Say no to the abuser. They are just exploiting you. If they can devise such a clever strategy to abuse another human being then they can very well do their own work themselves.

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